Allāh says: “And Allāh has made for you in your homes a place of rest…” 
This may seem like an unusual question and your automatic response may be “Why, of course my home is an Islāmic Home!! My family is Muslim and that makes our home a Muslim one!!” Go through this short checklist to determine if your response should really be in the affirmative.
I Have Chosen a Good Spouse
There are several aḥadīth that highlight the importance of choosing a righteous and pious spouse. The wisdom of this is obvious: a pious spouse is more likely to bring happiness and contentment to the other spouse and the couple together will be more able to build a righteous family and home life. This is the foundation of the home.
I Help Guide My Spouse
This begins with each spouse fulfilling the duties and responsibilities of their roles and treating each other with kindness and compassion. It then goes beyond this to include guidance in other spiritual matters such as striving to strengthen imān; paying attention to worship and correcting it when needed; encouraging the reading of Qur’ān, praying at night, giving charity, and reading books on Islām; helping to choose pious friends; enjoining goodness and forbidding evil. Imān is something that may increase or decrease so it is necessary to continually focus on increasing our own and that of our spouse.
Our Home is a Place for Remembrance of Allāh
Remembrance can be in many forms: with the heart, with the tongue, through prayer, recitation of Qur’ān, memorizing adhkār and using them, discussing Islamic issues, or reading Islamic material. These are things that should occur on a consistent basis so that the angels will come to the home and bring Allāh’s blessings. The Prophet, (Ṣallāhu ‘alayhi wa salam) said: ” The example of a home in which Allāh is remembered and the example of a home in which Allāh is not remembered, is like comparing the living and the dead.”
Our Home is a Place of Worship
This means that ṣalah is established within the home at its required time and that members of the family pray in congregation when several are present. The family may also designate a specific area for prayer and maintain its uniqueness and cleanliness. For women, it is better to pray each prayer within the home. For men, it is recommended to pray voluntary prayers at home after having prayed obligatory prayers in the masjid. The Prophet (Ṣallāhu ‘alayhi wa salam) said: “The voluntary prayer in the home is better than the voluntary prayer with the people. It is like the obligatory prayer of the man in congregation being better than praying the obligatory by himself.”  This is to ensure that homes are made places of worship just as the masajids.
We Regularly read Surah Al-Baqarah and Ayatul Kursi to Keep Satan Away
The Messenger of Allāh (Ṣallāhu ‘alayhi wa salam) said: “Recite Surah Al Baqarah in your houses, for the satan does not enter a house in which Surah Al-Baqarah is recited.”  He also said: “When you go to your bed, recite Ayatul Kursi: ‘Allāh! There is no god but Him, the Ever Living, the One Who Sustains and Protects all that exists’ to the end, for then there will remain over you a guardian from Allāh, and satan will not come near you until morning.” 
Teaching and Learning are Ongoing Activities in Our Home
This is primarily the responsibility of the head of the household who must ensure that he is guiding his family to the correct path, enjoining them to do good, and forbidding them from evil. Attaining knowledge is incumbent upon all members of the family and is the basis upon which imān will flourish. A study circle should be established in the home that covers the various areas in Islām and from which all family members will benefit. Children should especially be encouraged to participate since this will establish a pattern for them that will be carried throughout their lifetimes.
We Have an Islamic Library in Our Home
This may include such things as books, cassette tapes, and CDs. It is important to choose accurate and reliable material that will benefit the members of the family. There should be a variety of materials to cover all age levels and language needs of those in the home. Arabic material is definitely a must since everyone in the family should either know or be learning to read the language of the Qur’ān. Books should cover a variety of topics, be properly organized, and be easily accessible. Audiotapes and CDs may include Qur’ān recitation, lectures, khuṭbahs, tapes for children containing supplications, reminders of Islamic manners, and nashīds (religious songs with no musical instruments). Family members should encourage one another to use these materials on a regular basis, and should be shared with other Muslim families who may be in need of them.
We Try to Have Morals and Manners Like Prophet Muḥammad
The Prophet (Ṣallāhu ‘alayhi wa salam) said: “When Allāh wills some good towards the people of a house hold, He introduces kindness among them.” He also said: “Allāh loves kindness and rewards it in such a way the He does not reward for harshness or for anything else.” There are many examples of the Prophet’s kindness and good treatment toward his family that we should try to emulate. He was affectionate and playful with his wives and children and would help with household chores to ease the burden for his wives. Following his example will bring tranquillity to the home and help to truly make it an abode of rest.
We Know the Islamic Rulings That Pertain to Houses
Such as guarding the secrets of the home, seeking permission to enter, not looking into other people’s homes, not allowing children to enter the parent’s bedroom during certain times of the day, and not staying alone overnight. This last one is interesting to consider since some husbands travel for their business or work. The Prophet (Ṣallāhu ‘alayhi wa salam) actually discouraged this. Ibn ‘Umar reported that the Prophet forbade being alone and said that a man should not stay overnight alone or travel alone. Not only will he be alone, but his wife and children are likely to be left alone in the home without any protection or companionship.
We Invite Righteous and Knowledgeable People to Our Home
“My Lord! Forgive me, and my parents, and him who enters my home as a believer, and all the believing men and women.”  Righteous people who enter your home will bring many benefits due to their presence and conversations with them. They are more likely to discuss useful topics and may be excellent sources of information and knowledge. We should always make du’ā that Allāh will bless us with righteous friends since they can have such positive effects on us. The Prophet (Ṣallāhu ‘alayhi wa salam) said: “Keep company with a believer only, and let your food be eaten only by the righteous.”
There are No Evils Within Our Home
Television (except possibly for educational programs) and unlawful music are not allowed in the house; pictures on the wall do not contain animate beings; there are no statues or anything that resembles statues; dogs are not present in the house; smoking is not allowed; decorations are kept simple to avoid excessiveness; the telephone is used for beneficial purposes and not harmful ones (such as gossiping or backbiting); when people come to visit, the men and women sit separately. The effects of these evils on the sanctity of the home should be obvious. For example, the Prophet (Ṣallāhu ‘alayhi wa salam) said: “Angels do not enter a house which has either a dog or a picture in it.”
The Physical Aspects of the Home are Conducive to Fulfilling Religious Obligations
It is best for the home to be close to a mosque so that it will be easier for men to attend the prayers in congregation and for all family members to visit the mosque for lectures, study groups, and social gatherings. It is also advisable to find an area where other Muslims live to obtain the benefits of community. One should definitely be careful about close neighbours and avoid those who are obviously immoral. When choosing a house, consideration should be made regarding the availability of separate sitting areas for men and women. The house should be spacious and fulfil safety and health requirements.
WHAT’S YOUR SCORE?
10-12 checkmarks: Congratulations! You have a sound Islamic Home and are on the correct path.
7-9 checkmarks: Fair to Good. You need a hit of work, but with Allāh’s help it will be easy.
4-6 checkmarks: Poor. You and your family really need to focus on changing many aspects of the home so that it will be more pleasing to Allāh and so that you can receive His rewards.
0-3checkmarks: Poor. It is definitely time to do some major house cleaning!
 al-Qur’ān: An-Naḥl: 80
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 al-Qur’ān: An-Nūḥ:28
(Abū Dāwūd, at-Tirmidhī)
Courtesy of Al Jumuah Magazine
Schools should be non-religious, and different groups should not be separated like apartheid in South Africa used to do. Children should be taught objective subjects such as languages and maths, sports and arts, without religious indoctrination. I spent years in school assemblies intoning the Lord’s Prayer: “Our Father who art in Heaven….” without believing a word. My father was not in Heaven, but at work. I thought what nonsense is this? I stopped believing in God, any God, at the same time that I stopped believing in the tooth fairy and Father Xmas, about aged eight.
Religion can be taught at home as a private thing and in churches, mosques, temples etc. as I accept that religion is a fact of life. Coercive brainwashing is immoral, whether political or religious.
Mate, if you are lonely go and speak to real humans instead of trolling websites with your uninformed opinions based on decades of brainwashing.
Alhamdulillah! I benefitted SO MUCH from this article.. Alhamdulillah!!
Also the people in a muslim home should wake up early in the morning and spend time praying and doing zikr.. Also the house should be clean and neat.. The people in the house should be hospitable when they have visitors in their houses..Every member of the family should have daily chores.. If their are servants in the house, they should be treated with care….
it is best for the home to be close to a mosque so that it will be easier for men to attend the prayers in congregation and for all family members to visit the mosque for lectures, study groups, and social gatherings.
There should be a positive co-relation between home and school, otherwise, he/she will face academic, social, emotional and personality problems.
It is a crime against humanity to send a Muslim child to a state school with non-Muslim monolingual teachers. Muslim children need state funded Muslim schools with bilingual Muslim teachers as role models during their developmental periods. There is no place for a non-Muslim child or a teacher in a Muslim school.
Asalaamualaikum. LOVED the article to say the least. I pray that Allah Grants us the tawfeeq to live our in homes the Islamic way.
Jazakillah khair sister Aisha!!
Assalamu Alaykum sister Ayesha,
Very simple but profound article to check the status of our homes.mashaallah. Just wasn’t aware about the overnight travel of husbands discouraged by the prohet(saw), could you please provide some authentic hadith s so that I can forward the article to friends .As in today’s time, travelling for work , visiting family if living in different countries or any permissible situation is a requirement for ongoing day to day affairs.
Your explanation on this point will be very helpful.
Jazak Allah Khair
Salamaliakum wa rahmatullah
I don’t know what is your issue with dogs, but i don’t know any reference from Sahih Hadith where it is prohibited to have dogs at the house. and also about the hadith you have quoted about sharing food with the believers and non others, doesn’t seem true to me. our Prophet s.a.w was merciful towards everyone. no matter believers or not. would be great if you would quote the references of the hadith while you are writing articles on these kind of topics or any Islamic topic.
Here is the hadith on companionship and sharing food. However, you should ask a scholar for the explanation since you can invite and share food with others where there is a benefit, such as giving dawah, etc. And “companion” here means a really close friend/buddy (Allahu alam – Allah knows best)
Asalam Alaykum wi Rahmatu Allah wi Barakatu,
Jazakum Allah Khair Dr. Aisha. In reply to the inquiry of sister Om Khadeeja, I would like to say that several Ulmaa ( Islamic Fiqh Scholars) maintain that the prohibition is related to paintings and not photos. A paintist tries to imitate Allah’ creation while a photographer uses a gadget to store the shadow of an animate being for any given future use with no imitation of Allah’ creation. Additionally, Prophet Muhammad PBUH allowed his wife Aisha ( may Allah be pleased with her) to keep her dolls and play with them as narrated in Hdeeth. May Allah bless Muslims to live and practice Islam according to the example of the Prophet PBUH in the way that pleases Allah SWT. Kindly accept my regards.
Isn’t it about time these ancient, irrelevant rules were quietly disregarded? None of you seem to agree with each other about these laws anyway. How absurd to have a debate about little girls having dolls! What happened to adult responsibility and personal judgement? Many of these ancient prohibitions were designed to keep the believers under control, and you passively go along with them.
There is no other doctrine that attempts to absolutely control every activity of normal life, washing, eating, praying, maybe breathing, with no privacy for the people. Even communism and fascism didn’t do this.
Again, look at this sloppily hidden logical fallacy:
Instruction = no privacy or thinking.
Fair enough, it shows a lot about THIS man’s childhood, upbringing or parenting, but for him to foolishly impose that as a categorical universal is just showing the dangerous combination of arrogance and ignorance…
jzk for the thought provoking article.
I wanted to ask about the issue of displaying animate objects.
My children have a bookcase with kids books that inevitably have pictures of animate beings on them. How can I tackle this issue, is it ok for me to have them.