The LGBT Lobby wishes he didn’t exist

In this profound podcast episode, the conversation reveals the transformative moment when our guest Ali Jaffery began dismantling what he calls “the identity paradigm” — the false notion that experiencing same-sex attraction makes someone inherently different or forces them to choose between their faith and their feelings.

Ali articulates a powerful alternative framework grounded in Islamic tradition: differentiating between having desires (which aren’t sinful) and acting upon them (which involves choice).

Through deep reflection on the Qur’ān, he discovered that the divine message wasn’t about condemning people with certain attractions, but rather calling everyone toward taqwa (God-consciousness) regardless of their internal struggles.

The healing journey Ali describes involves brotherhood, healthy masculine connections, and psychological insights that reveal how his sexualised attractions masked deeper needs for acceptance and belonging. Most movingly, he shares how honesty about his struggles led to a fulfilling marriage with a woman who responded to his disclosure with remarkable compassion…

For anyone navigating the complex intersection of faith and so-called “sexuality” — or simply trying to understand how Islamic teachings can address contemporary challenges with both compassion and principle — this episode offers rare wisdom.

Ali’s story demonstrates that neither shame-filled silence nor identity-based surrender are the only options, showing instead a third way: how struggle itself can become a pathway to spiritual growth and authentic relationships!

Episode breakdown

• First experiencing same-sex attraction (SSA) at age 12 while lacking masculine role models and mentorship
• Carrying the secret for 11 painful years due to shame, fear, and self-loathing
• Finding the courage to speak openly in counselling sessions at university
• Distinguishing between having desires and acting upon them — a crucial Islamic principle
• Discovering that healthy male relationships and brotherhood were what he truly craved beneath sexualised attractions
• Reframing the Qur’ānic story of Prophet Lūt (ʿalayhi al-Salām) as calling people toward taqwa
• Building a successful marriage based on complete transparency and shared spiritual values
• Creating support systems for Muslims with SSA to find community without shame
• Emphasising that Allah judges actions rather than feelings we don’t control
• Offering a third path beyond both denial and identity-based approaches to SSA.

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What is OnGuard?

OnGuard is a podcast and a call to conscience.

Born from the heart of Islam21c, it is a shield for the Ummah and a voice for truth in times of confusion and crisis.

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Also read

• Voices You Don’t Hear Often
• My Same-Sex Attraction: Understanding & Healing

Source: Islam21c