As it is obvious from my handle of al-Fārsi, I am ethnically Persian and I was born and raised in the West by Persian parents who did not practice Islām, with some elements of my family being more spiritual than practical in their faith.
As a result, this meant I was raised as almost agnostic, with some elements of Islām being mentioned whilst growing up. However, it was due to a key point in my life at the age of 13 that I started thinking about theology, particularly with regard to the afterlife, and I saw myself gravitate towards Islām. I developed my understanding of Islām through reading and understanding the Qur’ān and by watching speakers on YouTube from ‘The Deen Show’, and essentially, I fell in love with the religion of Allāh (subḥānahu wa taʿālā). There came a point where someone explained to me that there are 12 individuals after the Prophet (ṣall Allāhu ʿalayhi wa sallam) who have abilities almost Godlike in nature. For me, that did not make any sense because when I would read a chapter a day of the Qur’ān, I would never see any direct mention of something as significant as that put in plain view; unlike prayer, charity, the rights of women etc. All these different key elements of our dīn had been mentioned, yet this one crucial thing was only indirectly mentioned by Allāh (subḥānahu wa taʿālā)? I could not understand why that would be the case.
Ramaḍān approached, and I chose to dedicate it to pinning down exactly what I truly accepted between the Sunni or the Shia perspective. It was around 2 am on Eid al-Fiṭr that I took my shahādah again and I prayed the Eid prayer at my mosque — my first prayer as a Sunni Muslim.
Now that I have explained my own personal background, I can give you a true insight into what this Eid day is like for someone like me. This event, as we know, is a beautiful occasion that marks the end of the month of Ramaḍān, in which we abstain from many of the world’s delights of food and drink (amongst others). This day also marks the coming together of families during the early morning prayer throughout the rest of the day, or for those who finished their work and know they will come home and they will be greeted by other family members with an “Eid Mubārak”, who then enjoy their company and the old will exchange gifts with the young.
Yet, the end of the month of Ramaḍān also signifies the end of the Shayṭān’s imprisonment, at which point he will remind the revert that they are alone and that this event of celebration means little because you are by yourself, with no one to celebrate with. For instance, I go to the early morning prayer at my local mosque and take part in the great takbīrāt with my friends and members of my local mosque and end it by sending congratulations to my friends, to the local Imām, and other members of my community. Then, I return home and sleep. Fast forward a couple of hours and I wake up again to be greeted by my mum and receive calls from relatives saying, “Eid Mubarak”. To them, Eid is just another day. I am all alone.
Now, this feeling is something that I have been able to overcome. I still look forward to the day of Eid as it is the day that Allāh (subḥānahu wa taʿālā) blessed me with this amazing gift of Islām and changed my life for the better. I can proudly refer to as the anniversary of my shahādah, and this day is thus a key reminder to myself in appreciating this already significant day. However, there are times where the loneliness still creeps into my mind because I get to see all those young kids with their mothers and fathers celebrating, whereas I return home to two simple words and then the day is treated as any other day in my life.
To ensure that I do not feel sad on such an amazing day, I try to overemphasise the significance and happiness that I experience during the early morning prayer, which only a combination of years and years of being in this beautiful faith has allowed me to develop. Do not get me wrong. I am grateful for the family I have, and I love them dearly because I know that there are families out there that mentally or physically abuse their children simply because they love Allāh (subḥānahu wa taʿālā) and his Messenger (sall Allāhu ʿalayhi wa sallam). However, for them, seeing their friends on the days of Eid with their families as it should be celebrated can honestly be painful because it reminds them of what their family is like. That is why I have always said to my Muslim brothers to appreciate the family you have even when you are upset with them, because I can vouch that any revert out there would kill to have a father or mother like yours — parents who pray, read the Qur’ān, who will give Islamic reminders to their children in some shape or form, and encourage their children and spouses to go to the mosque — because many reverts do not have that.
I usually try messaging a friend of mine and see if they are available on that first day of Eid, to which I receive the reply of “I’m sorry bro I’m with my family”. At first, I would feel down but I would remind myself that my brother is able to celebrate with his family, and it makes me look forward to a day where I can be blessed to properly celebrate the day of Eid with my own family, in shā’ Allāh.
So, please remember that you may have friends — brothers in your faith and sisters in your faith — who are not as fortunate to have such a blessing; who, maybe like me, simply get congratulatory messages and that is it for the day; and for some who even have to hide it completely from their families for risk of being persecuted by their loved ones.
The point of this brief journey is to give you some kind of an insight as we reach the end of Ramaḍān, to remind yourselves to try if possible — even if it is for one hour, 30 minutes, or even 10 minutes — to just simply be with your Muslim brother or sister on the first day of Eid, just so that they get to experience some kind of celebration that is in addition to the Eid prayer. When this happens, the joy and value they will feel are hard to match.
As Allāh (subḥānahu wa taʿālā) says in the Qur’ān:
… إِنَّمَا ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنُونَ إِخۡوَةٌ۬
“The believers are but brothers…” 
And to my brothers and sisters who have joined the beautiful religion of Islām, be it recently or some time ago, I remind you of the āyāt that many have reminded themselves in hard times:
فَإِنَّ مَعَ ٱلۡعُسۡرِ يُسۡرًا
“For indeed, with hardship [will be] ease.
إِنَّ مَعَ ٱلۡعُسۡرِ يُسۡرً۬ا
Indeed, with hardship [will be] ease.” 
I ask Allāh (subḥānahu wa taʿālā) to accept our efforts in the blessed month of Ramaḍān and to make our efforts easy and also grant us and our families good health and khayr in this life and the next. ĀmĪn.
 Al-Qur’ān 49:10
 Al-Qur’ān 94:5-6
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