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Death – No One Can Escape

The A to Z of Death

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It is reported that one of the great scholars and ascetics of the past, Yazīd al-Riqāshī had a rhetorical conversation with himself, ‘Woe to you, Yazīd! After you die, who will perform ṣalāh on your behalf? Who will fast on your behalf? Who will make your Lord pleased with you on your behalf? Death is your promise, the grave will be your home, earth will be your bed, the worms will be your close companions – and all the while you will be awaiting the Greatest Terror. What will be your condition then?’ Then he wept so much that he fainted.[1]

This narration is one of many examples showing how death and the afterlife was foremost in the minds of the righteous: they realised that it was inevitable and they knew that it was the most important event of their lives. Death began the road to the final account which would determine whether they succeeded or failed: whether their final, eternal life was to be in Paradise or Hell, whether Allāh was pleased with them or not. They were preoccupied with the Qurʾānic injunction,

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّـهَ وَلْتَنظُرْ نَفْسٌ مَّا قَدَّمَتْ لِغَدٍ ۖ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّـهَ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ

You who believe! Be mindful of Allāh, and let every soul consider carefully what it sends ahead for tomorrow; be mindful of Allāh for Allāh is well aware of everything you do.[2]

Death occupied their thoughts, they were concerned about it and they prepared themselves for it. Amongst mankind, they were in the minority: intelligent and judicious, unlike the majority about whom Allāh says

اقْتَرَبَ لِلنَّاسِ حِسَابُهُمْ وَهُمْ فِي غَفْلَةٍ مُّعْرِضُونَ

Ever closer to people draws their reckoning, while they turn away, heedless.[3]

It is ironic that, despite knowing that death is inevitable, most people are oblivious of it and what comes after. They live lives heedless of this certainty, engrossed with this worldly life, unmindful of the stark fact that it is temporal and our stay here is just for a few numbered days,

وَمَا جَعَلْنَا لِبَشَرٍ مِّن قَبْلِكَ الْخُلْدَ ۖ أَفَإِن مِّتَّ فَهُمُ الْخَالِدُونَ ﴿٣٤﴾ كُلُّ نَفْسٍ ذَائِقَةُ الْمَوْتِ ۗ وَنَبْلُوكُم بِالشَّرِّ وَالْخَيْرِ فِتْنَةً ۖ وَإِلَيْنَا تُرْجَعُونَ

We have not granted everlasting life to any other human being before you either. If you die, how can they think they will live forever? Every soul is certain to taste death: We test you all through the bad and the good, and to Us will you return.[4]

No one knows when they will die. No one knows at what age they will die. No one knows in what place they will die. No one knows in what manner they will die.[5] But die they will. From the point we are born, we are heading inexorably to the appointed time and place of our death. As soon as we are born, we are dying. It is inevitable, it is inescapable,

قُلْ إِنَّ الْمَوْتَ الَّذِي تَفِرُّونَ مِنْهُ فَإِنَّهُ مُلَاقِيكُمْ ۖ ثُمَّ تُرَدُّونَ إِلَىٰ عَالِمِ الْغَيْبِ وَالشَّهَادَةِ فَيُنَبِّئُكُم بِمَا كُنتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ

Say: ‘The death you run away from will come to meet you and you will be returned to the One who knows the unseen as well as the seen: He will tell you everything you have done.’[6]

No matter how much we may try to avoid it, death itself is heading towards us and it will meet us. No matter how much we may try to cling on to this world, it is heading away from us and we will leave it.

Death is seen as a morbid subject, taboo, a topic of conversation to be avoided. Many people are averse to thinking about it, they do not want their children to think about it, they do not want to witness it. Islām, however, is totally different: we are taught that not only should we think it about it, we have to. We have to prepare ourselves for it and we have to prepare our children for it.

Preparing for Death

One time the Prophet (sall Allāhu ʿalayhi wa sallam) saw some people gathering in the distance and he asked what they were doing. He was told that they were digging a grave and, terrified, he rushed to the grave and knelt by it. He wept until the earth around him became wet with his tears, then he turned to face his Companions and said, “My brothers, prepare yourselves for this day!”[7]

Abū Hurayrah reported that Allāh’s Messenger (sall Allāhu ʿalayhi wa sallam) said,

أَكْثِرُوا ذِكْرَ هَاذِمِ اللَّذَّاتِ- يَعْنِي الْمَوْتَ

“Frequently remember the destroyer of desires,” i.e. death[8]

Another narration has, “Frequently remember the destroyer of desires. No servant in straitened and difficult circumstances remembers death except that it makes them easier to bear. No servant in times of ease and luxury remembers death except that it will rein him in.”[9]

This is an example of the pithy, concise statements of the Messenger (sall Allāhu ʿalayhi wa sallam) – his jawāmiʿ al-kalim, where in a few choice words he expressed meanings of great import. When a person frequently remembers death, he will keep things in true perspective: Allāh’s good pleasure as compared to people’s pleasure, the Hereafter as compared to this world, and the wage with Allāh as compared to the wage of this world. He will internalise the reality of the next life, the desire to sin will decrease, his heart will soften and he will turn to Allāh in repentance and servitude.

A woman once came to ʿĀʾishah complaining of having a hard heart, a heart that felt distant from Allāh, and she advised her to remember death because it would soften it. She followed this advice and came back to her to tell her that it had worked wonders for her![10]

Allāh’s Messenger (sall Allāhu ʿalayhi wa sallam) was once asked who the intelligent person was. His reply? “Those who remember death the most, and those who best prepare for what comes after death. They are the intelligent ones.”[11]

In another ḥadīth, he (sall Allāhu ʿalayhi wa sallam) said, “The intelligent person is the one who brings himself to account and works deeds for what comes after death. The fool is the one who follows his lusts and desires, yet still holds false hopes in Allāh.”[12]

Intelligent students prepare for exams and the greatest exam of all is life itself. It is only the truly astute who will pass it, not those who may have the highest IQ, but those who realise what is most important and judiciously work towards it.

People, foolish people, spend their entire lives oblivious of death, acting as if they will live forever, indeed trying to avoid death, preoccupied in seeking that elusive formula that will give them eternal life. They try ointment after ointment, surgery, medicines, blood transfusions not realising that death is something entirely in Allāh’s hands.

أَيْنَمَا تَكُونُوا يُدْرِككُّمُ الْمَوْتُ وَلَوْ كُنتُمْ فِي بُرُوجٍ مُّشَيَّدَةٍ ۗ

Death will overtake you no matter where you may be, even inside high, well-fortified towers.[13]

It is a reality; we cannot cheat death:

فَلَوْلَا إِذَا بَلَغَتِ الْحُلْقُومَ ﴿٨٣﴾ وَأَنتُمْ حِينَئِذٍ تَنظُرُونَ ﴿٨٤﴾ وَنَحْنُ أَقْرَبُ إِلَيْهِ مِنكُمْ وَلَـٰكِن لَّا تُبْصِرُونَ ﴿٨٥﴾ فَلَوْلَا إِن كُنتُمْ غَيْرَ مَدِينِينَ ﴿٨٦﴾ تَرْجِعُونَهَا إِن كُنتُمْ صَادِقِينَ

When the soul of the dying man comes up to the throat while you gaze on – We are nearer to him than you, though you do not see Us – why, if you are not in our power, so you not restore his soul to him, if what you say is true?[14]

وَجَاءَتْ سَكْرَةُ الْمَوْتِ بِالْحَقِّ ۖ ذَٰلِكَ مَا كُنتَ مِنْهُ تَحِيدُ ﴿١٩

The trance of death will come in truth: This is what you tried to escape.[15]

Yes, Islām teaches us not to be hermits, to live in this world, to earn our livings, to support ourselves and our families. But we are also taught that this is not our permanent home. We are people of the Hereafter, our eyes must be set towards that target, towards Allāh and what lies with Him. Do not let the allure of this world distract us from that. Never let this world turn us away from Allāh, His good pleasure, His Paradise and the greatest gift of all, gazing at His face in Paradise.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تُلْهِكُمْ أَمْوَالُكُمْ وَلَا أَوْلَادُكُمْ عَن ذِكْرِ اللَّـهِ ۚ وَمَن يَفْعَلْ ذَٰلِكَ فَأُولَـٰئِكَ هُمُ الْخَاسِرُونَ ﴿٩﴾ وَأَنفِقُوا مِن مَّا رَزَقْنَاكُم مِّن قَبْلِ أَن يَأْتِيَ أَحَدَكُمُ الْمَوْتُ فَيَقُولَ رَبِّ لَوْلَا أَخَّرْتَنِي إِلَىٰ أَجَلٍ قَرِيبٍ فَأَصَّدَّقَ وَأَكُن مِّنَ الصَّالِحِينَ ﴿١٠﴾ وَلَن يُؤَخِّرَ اللَّـهُ نَفْسًا إِذَا جَاءَ أَجَلُهَا ۚ وَاللَّـهُ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ ﴿١١

Believers, do not let your wealth and your children distract you from remembering Allāh: those who do so will be the ones who lose. Give out of what We have provided you with before death comes to one of you and he says, ‘My Lord, if You would only reprieve me for a little while, I would give charity and become one of the righteous. Allāh does not reprieve a soul when its turn comes: Allāh is fully aware of what you do.’[16]

So many people have passed through this world, people who lived for it and it alone: kings, queens, conquerors, millionaires, billionaires, tyrants… how many remain? How many are remembered?

وَكَمْ أَهْلَكْنَا قَبْلَهُم مِّن قَرْنٍ هَلْ تُحِسُّ مِنْهُم مِّنْ أَحَدٍ أَوْ تَسْمَعُ لَهُمْ رِكْزًا

How many generations We have destroyed before them! Do you perceive a single one of them now, or hear as much as a whisper?[17]

The very world they lived for forgot them.

When death comes, when a person is in the final throes of death, it Is too late. There is no turning back and it is too late to regret

حَتَّىٰ إِذَا جَاءَ أَحَدَهُمُ الْمَوْتُ قَالَ رَبِّ ارْجِعُونِ ﴿٩٩﴾ لَعَلِّي أَعْمَلُ صَالِحًا فِيمَا تَرَكْتُ ۚ كَلَّا ۚ إِنَّهَا كَلِمَةٌ هُوَ قَائِلُهَا ۖ وَمِن وَرَائِهِم بَرْزَخٌ إِلَىٰ يَوْمِ يُبْعَثُونَ

When death comes to one of them, he cries, ‘My Lord, let me return so as to make amends for the things I neglected!’ Never! This will not go beyond his words, a barrier stands behind such people until the very Day they are resurrected.[18]

The Purpose of Life and Death

Why did Allāh create life and death? Listen to His answer:

تَبَارَكَ الَّذِي بِيَدِهِ الْمُلْكُ وَهُوَ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ ﴿١﴾ الَّذِي خَلَقَ الْمَوْتَ وَالْحَيَاةَ لِيَبْلُوَكُمْ أَيُّكُمْ أَحْسَنُ عَمَلًا ۚ وَهُوَ الْعَزِيزُ الْغَفُورُ

Exalted is He who holds all control in His hands: who has power over all things. Who created life and death to test you and reveal which of you does best deeds. He is the Mighty, the Forgiving.[19]

Suddī explained that the person who does best deeds is the one ‘who remembers death the most because such a person will prepare for it best, be most fearful of it and always wary of it.[20]

In an amazing āyah, Allāh says

وَابْتَغِ فِيمَا آتَاكَ اللَّـهُ الدَّارَ الْآخِرَةَ ۖ وَلَا تَنسَ نَصِيبَكَ مِنَ الدُّنْيَا ۖ وَأَحْسِن كَمَا أَحْسَنَ اللَّـهُ إِلَيْكَ ۖ وَلَا تَبْغِ الْفَسَادَ فِي الْأَرْضِ ۖ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ لَا يُحِبُّ الْمُفْسِدِينَ

Seek the life to come by means of what Allāh has granted you, but do not neglect your share in this world. Do good to others as Allāh has done good to you. Do not seek to spread corruption in the land, for Allāh does not love those who do this.[21]

Use this dunyā for the Hereafter, use everything that Allāh has given us to earn His good-pleasure.

Another example of how death was foremost in the mind of the righteous: even though the share of this world mentioned in this āyah is primarily talking about our worldly effects, some of the Salaf said that it means the kafan, or shroud. Of all the effects of this world, the only thing we will take with us into the grave is that shroud, everything else is left behind. They said that the meaning of the verse is do not forget your share of this world, that shroud that will go with you to your death, in effect do not forget about your death.[22]

Remembering death

The Prophet (sall Allāhu ʿalayhi wa sallam) taught us the best way to remember death,

كُنْتُ نَهَيْتُكُمْ عَنْ زِيَارَةِ الْقُبُورِ، فَزُورُوهَا؛ فَإِنَّهَا تُزَهِّدُ فِي الدُّنْيَا، وَتُذَكِّرُ الْآخِرَةَ

I used to prohibit you from visiting the graves. Now visit them because they help you put the world in its place and remind you of the Hereafter.[23]

One time, he (sall Allāhu ʿalayhi wa sallam) visited his mother’s grave and wept, causing all those with him to weep as well. He said, “I asked my Lord for permission to seek forgiveness for her, but it was not granted to me. I then asked permission to visit her grave, and it was granted to me. So visit the graves because they remind you of death.”[24]

When we go to the graveyard, we do not just see old people there, we see children and babies – people who, as they say, ‘died before their time.’ The visit serves to remind us that we just do not know when we will go. The visit should remind us that one day we will be in that grave, we will be living the life of the grave and then we will be resurrected from that grave to face the final accounting.

Remembering death also improves our worship, “Remember death in your prayer. When a man remembers death in his prayer, he is more likely to perfect his prayer. Pray the prayer of a person who does not expect to pray another prayer.”[25]

In the sections that follow, we will discuss the journey of the soul from the point of death to the time of resurrection, not because it is an interesting narrative, but because we want to be – we need to be those intelligent, judicious people that our Messenger (sall Allāhu ʿalayhi wa sallam) talked about. Knowing what happens after death will inform us of what we need to prepare for it and how to prepare for it. This journey will tell us how we are supposed to live our lives in servitude to our Lord, Most High.



[1] Abū Nuʿaym 3:51

[2] Al-Qur’ān, 59:18

[3] Al-Qur’ān, 21:1

[4] Al-Qur’ān, 21: 34-35

[5] C.f. Al-Qurʾān 31:34

[6] al-Jumuʿah 62:8

[7] Aḥmad #18601, ibn Mājah #4195 from al-Barāʾ b. ʿĀzib

[8] Nasāʾī #1824, Tirmidhī #2307, ibn Mājah #4258. Abū Nuʿaym 6:355 from Mālik b. Anas who says the Prophet (sall Allāhu ʿalayhi wa sallam) explained the term to mean death.

[9] Ibn Ḥibbān #2993

[10] Ibn Rajab, Dhamm Qaswa al-Qulūb, pg. 27

[11] Ibn Mājah #4259 from ibn ʿUmar

[12] Tirmidhī #2459 from Shaddād b. Aws

[13] Al-Qur’ān, 4: 78

[14] Al-Qur’ān, 56:83-87

[15] Al-Qur’ān, 50-19-20

[16] Al-Qur’ān, 63:9-11

[17] Al-Qur’ān, 19:98

[18] Al-Qur’ān, 23: 99-100

[19] Al-Qur’ān, 67:1-2

[20] Māwardī

[21] Al-Qur’ān,28:77

[22] Qurṭubī

[23] Ibn Mājah #1571, Ibn Ḥibbān #981 from ibn Masʿūd

[24] Muslim #976 from Abū Hurayrah

[25] Daylamī, cf. al-Ṣaḥīḥah #2839

About Shaikh Abu Rumaysah Refi Shafi

Abu Rumaysah Refi Shafi was born and brought up in High Wycombe. He currently studies with Shaykh Haitham Al-Haddad and, previously, Shaykh Abu AbdiRahman Al-Libee. He graduated from Imperial College from the faculty of Electronic Engineering. He currently works as a Software Engineer and is the chairman of WISE (Wycombe Islamic Society). He is very active in his local community, especially with his Masjid and working with youth. He has translated a number of books such as 'The Criterion between the Friends of Allah and the Friends of Shaytan,' and 'Relief from Distress (the Dua of Yunus 'alayhī al-Salām),' both by Ibn Taymiyyah as well as many others. He has also written an explanation of Surah al-Fatihah called ‘The Spiritual Cure.’ He currently gives weekly circles in High Wycombe on a variety of topics covering aqidah, fiqh, hadith, tafsir and Arabic Language. He is also a Lecturer for MRDF.

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